I’ve been thinking a lot about friendship lately. Why we need it, how it changes over time and with our circumstances, and what we put into it and draw from it. While my guy friends are some of my most favorite people in the world (I can’t resist an opportunity to bust chops with the best of them), I’ve specifically been thinking about my girlfriends. In my group, there are entrepreneurs, accomplished professionals, students, leaders, parents, academics, compassionate caretakers of animals and people, and free spirits. I’m so proud to know and love these women in my everyday life. In all of this pondering of my people, I came to a realization: all I really need to know about friendship, I learned from The Golden Girls.
Behold, the four friend archetypes who will see you through all of life’s ups, downs, and in-betweens. If you’ve got these girls in your corner, you are doing alright.
Rose is your cheerleader and your unfailing supporter. She is the first to pour you a cup of coffee or bake you something so you can eat your feelings, whether you are celebrating or mourning. Rose is your encourager, and a permanent optimist. This is the friend you go to when you just need to know that everything is going to be okay (even if you don’t really believe that in the moment). She is the human personification of a warm chocolate chip cookie. Your Rose is probably your most sensitive friend, but that may not be obvious because she is usually busy tending to everyone else’s needs; don’t forget to take care of her, too.
Where Rose is the first to pour you coffee, Blanche is the first to pour you a stiff drink. Blanche sees all of your shenanigans, and she is HERE FOR IT. Your Blanche is maybe not the friend you go to when you are making major life decisions, but she is the friend you can count on to be up for all of your best adventures. She is usually your most glamorous friend, as glamour and shenanigans often go hand in hand. She might cost you some bail money, but she will definitely give you some of your best memories. The sass is strong with this one.
Dorothy is the judge, jury, and executioner. Don’t ask her advice unless you want a real and honest answer, because she is about the tough love. She will not sugar coat anything, but know that it comes from a good place. Dorothy is a little hard on you because she knows you can do better. She sees your potential and wants you to reach it. While she will point-blank call you out on your nonsense, she will also be the first to defend you (and she will do it fiercely), if someone is foolish enough to try and come for you. She is the protector, the mama bear.
While your Sophia may not literally be your most “senior” friend, she is the sage. Sophia is the keeper of all of the wisdom. Whatever you’re going through, she’s been there, done that, and knows pretty much exactly how it’s going to turn out. Sophia is the friend your other friends tell you to ask when you are stuck about what to do. She won’t beat you over the head with her experience. Sophia knows how to let you get to your own decisions, but chances are if you ask her advice before you make a choice, you will save yourself an awful lot of heartache.
Yes, four sassy retirees in jazzy pantsuits have all the friend wisdom you’ll ever really need. These are the women you want in your friendship arsenal. Some of my girls fit just one of these roles, and some have a sprinkle of all four, but I will gladly hash out all of what life has to throw at us over cheesecake on the lanai anytime.